ParentTip: Kids are sometimes far less upset by their social challenges than we are. If you pepper your child with questions about a friend who wasn't nice to her, you're indirectly letting her know that she should be worried about something she may not actually have been all that fazed by.

ParentTip: If you're not biting your tongue at least once a day with your kid, something's off. Self-restraint is a feature, not a bug, of parenting -- we parent not to have our own needs met, but to help someone else learn to meet theirs.

GirlTip: Have you ever had a friend who gossiped about other people, or ditched them, or were just inconsistent and unkind to others, and thought to yourself, 'But they won't do that to me?' I am amazed by my own steadfast tendency to see myself as the exception -- my optimism bias, as I believe it's called, deludes me into believing that somehow I won't be hurt.

ParentTip: Setting boundaries with our kids is about MUCH more than saying no, or even what you're saying no to. Here's why you should work hard to set limits -- and stick with them.Setting a boundary means asserting your values as a parent. You tell your kids what you stand for as a family -- and to do that, you'll have to say no to something else.

This post originally appeared in the Chicago Tribune.LAKE FOREST, Ill. -Best-selling author, educator and speaker Rachel Simmons addressed a gathering of high school and middle school students at Woodlands Academy of the Sacred Heart March 9.

This post originally appeared on Romper.com.I relish my five-year-old daughter’s sparkling confidence. When she preens in the mirror in a comically mismatched outfit, she celebrates herself exactly as she is — and not through the lens of an appearance-obsessed culture.

I’ve spent the last two years talking with parents about the unprecedented stress and anxiety plaguing their adolescents — nearly half of whom, according to recent studies of college students, report feeling “overwhelmed by all I had to do.”

Girl power. Breaking glass ceilings. Anything is possible. You can be the first female president.

Positive messages, right? Well, maybe not so much when we push our girls and young women to achieve, or overachieve.

Worried about the pressure placed on your daughter by social media? Watch this segment from Good Morning America where Rachel Simmons breaks down these external pressures and helps you navigate them.

How can we help girls reject "supergirl" pressure? Watch as Rachel Simmons sits down with Good Morning America to discuss Enough As She Is, unprecedented pressure to succeed and how to tackle these messages in your home.

Telling your friend how you really feel is a good way to practice self-advocacy.

Is there still value in all-girl or all-boy programming? Watch Rachel sit down with Amy of Good Morning America to discuss recent controversy between the Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts of America.

It's often said that character is who we are when things get hard. The same is true of good parenting -- it's who we are when things get hard. It's the moments when we have to say no, be the one who doesn't "get it," refuse to rescue, decline to be "cool."

Self-care isn't a privilege you earn if you only work hard enough. You don't "get" to clean your room, take a nap, shower, take a walk, or call a friend. You do these things because your body & soul need them to thrive. You do them as everyday acts of self-respect. It breaks my heart to hear so many young women tell me they don't "deserve" self-care. Self-care is not a privilege. It is a right.

Rachel's Smith College initiative, “Failing Well," was profiled in the New York Times.

Rachel discusses how to help children learn resilience through failure.

Rachel advises a teen on grieving the loss of a dear friend.