It's often said that character is who we are when things get hard. The same is true of good parenting -- it's who we are when things get hard. It's the moments when we have to say no, be the one who doesn't "get it," refuse to rescue, decline to be "cool."

Self-care isn't a privilege you earn if you only work hard enough. You don't "get" to clean your room, take a nap, shower, take a walk, or call a friend. You do these things because your body & soul need them to thrive. You do them as everyday acts of self-respect. It breaks my heart to hear so many young women tell me they don't "deserve" self-care. Self-care is not a privilege. It is a right.