When girls engage with what they genuinely care about, they are happier, more motivated, and more resilient. The College Application Industrial Complex forces teens to trade the experience of learning & curiosity for the appearance of a flawless resume. Encourage girls to draw 2 columns on a page: what I “have” to do every week, and what I want to do. If the “have to” column is long, consider the changes you can make to get closer to more “want-to’s.” It’s there you’ll find the fuel to thrive. Credit: Tara Christie Kinsey of the Hewitt School.