ParentTip: Kids are sometimes far less upset by their social challenges than we are. If you pepper your child with questions about a friend who wasn’t nice to her, you’re indirectly letting her know that she should be worried about something she may not actually have been all that fazed by. If you have a frequent urge to ask “how’s it going with that friend?” or to coax out the details of what happened that day, just remember the frequency of your questions — even if you’re not explicitly focusing on the negative — send an indirect message that you think something is wrong. If she doesn’t, let her manage it and learn about it on her own