Model optimism – explain a setback in terms of SPECIFICS, not universal beliefs about yourself or the world. “I didn’t get the job because I wasn’t the right fit for this one” (specific) vs “I didn’t get the job because I’m a terrible interviewer” (universal).
Explain a success in terms of UNIVERSALS, not specifics. “I got the job because I’m smart and qualified” vs “I got the job because a junior associate interviewed me.”
Remember, girls are listening, and we are scripting them in how to respond not just to setbacks — but to success.