GirlTip: If it drives you bonkers that someone isn’t acting the way you wish they would — if you find yourself ruminating endlessly about how they could POSSIBLY have done what they did, or said what they said, or DIDN’T do what you needed them to do…consider this:
What if the answer is that they are simply different than you?
What if the reason we are so upset is because what we really wish for is the person to act the way WE would, and be the way WE are? But when they fail to behave as we would, we go around and around about why, as if by overthinking it we could figure out the answer and find a way or reason to make them different.
But like going back to the fridge over and over again in search of something that will never be there, you won’t come up with an answer. You’ll overthink yourself into the ground trying, stewing in your resentment.
Instead, the answer may be as simple as this: they did or said or didn’t do whatever it was because they are not like us.
Once we can accept that, we can figure out the bigger, far more important question: can this relationship survive the difference?