Comments on: Guest Blog: How to Conquer Prom Drama

By: Shaping Youth » Media Hypefest: Are Proms the New Wedding? A Teen’s Perspective

Mon, 10 May 2010 21:35:02 +0000

[...] since so many stories had surfaced about moving beyond ‘mean girl’ stereotypes and how to conquer ‘proma.’ Now, as As we wrap up “girls rights week” AND prom season, it seems Lilly’s post is a [...]

By: Tori

Tori — Wed, 05 May 2010 12:06:45 +0000

Well seeing as some “proma” seems to be on the verge of errupting within my group of friends, I think I should point them all to this article/blog!!! Hopefully, it will help everyone remember that prom is supposed to be fun (and anot stressful)

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Tue, 04 May 2010 16:33:11 +0000

Christina:
I am glad everything worked out and you realized that fun is the most important part of this night! Good for you for seeking out advice and staying the course!
Stephanie

By: Christina

Christina — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 03:04:24 +0000

I experienced my own “prama” (prom drama)earlier on today, and I was at a complete loss. I too had the group of girls who wanted to take over and change plans and exclude everyone else from their clique. To me, this was totally unfair. After being friends with these girls for four years, I, and many of my other friends, could not understand why we were being disregarded and unaccounted for. We all vented and got angry about it, but it wasn’t until after all of our hurt feelings were spilled out to each other that we realized we weren’t doing anything productive to solve our problem. What I, and my friends who were all upset realized, was that all of the frustrated feelings totally aren’t worth it. Prom is supposed to be a fun night to spend with your friends!

Everything in this article is so true! One single person/small group of people should not be dictating the entire group’s decisions or try to sway opinions!! Once I stepped back and realized what exactly prom is supposed to be, I understood that the hurt feelings, the fights, and the changing of plans shouldn’t be happening! We shouldn’t be plotting different plans behind each other’s backs like we were – instead, we should confront the problem and try to come up with a solution to fix it. Luckily, by getting advice from adults, talking to our friends parents, and talking to each other, things were somehow sorted out, to what I hope will make everyone happy! The important thing to remember is that no matter how bad “prama” can become, it is never worth it because everything will always work out in the end!

Thanks for the article – this really helped! (:

By: Yvonne Wise

Yvonne Wise — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 14:15:21 +0000

This is great advice that the teen girls have given, but I’d like to know if they actually followed it themselves. My guess is probably not! This stuff is always so much easier said than done.

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 18:51:14 +0000

This happens to everyone. I myself was caught up in my own fair share of prom drama and let me tell you there is no way around it. your ideas are great and in theory would work but getting a large group of girls who go to a high pressure school to focus 100% on making prom a smooth process is next to impossible. However, if everyone did at least one of those things, it could be a lot more bearable for everyone. To be honest, the drama kind of made the event even better once it all subsided ) it’s alllllll relative problem solving skills! looking back it’s silly but then again, there will always be things to look back on and call silly! <3 great article though it's so true xoxo

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 03:26:17 +0000

Deenu – good for you for being there for your friends and for realizing the point of prom! – Stephanie

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 23:52:50 +0000

Wow! I am glad this resonated with so many girls. I like what Colleen said about going with the flow. In a group effort you might not get everything you want but its important not to be taken advantage of!

By: Lulu

Lulu — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 23:50:26 +0000

I completely agree with needing to speak up. I had a friend whose group planned everything without telling her and only told her after it was too late to put her input into the situation. Nothing was going right for her and eventually they left her without a table to sit at but luckily she was able to find another table. There was definitely a dictator in this situation and nobody did anything about it. Prom is supposed to be a fun time with the friends and the preparation is a group effort and everyone needs to be able to add their ideas.

By: Deenu

Deenu — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 23:49:55 +0000

I agree with Stephanie. Prom is supposed to be fun, instead girls tend to make it something much more complicated. I myself have comforted a few of my friends due to “prom drama.” The problem is most people forget the purpose of prom – to have a special night with your peers. Like you said, the most important thing it to have fun, it doesn’t matter who you are sitting with or what you are wearing.