Comments on: My Best Friend is My Bully

By: Tina

Tina — Mon, 17 May 2010 20:24:23 +0000

I know what you mean, in 5th grade this kid named cody moved in right across the street from me and we became friends almost right away.We had been friends for over 2 years and always helped eachother when we needed it. But now he is relly mean and even told one of his best friends that he didn’t want to be friends anymore because I was friends with him!But what i would do is try to ignore it.

By: Gwen

Gwen — Thu, 06 May 2010 14:57:21 +0000

Yes. I totally understand what you are going through. I was going through the same thing, but it was a bit different. : It was 5th grade and this new girl Kim (not her real name :/) moved to my town from more north of my state. And she moved RIGHT across the street from me. IN my neighborhood. Which, at the time was awesome because we were friends. Since we went to the same school we rode our bikes home together, and she got really mean and unfriendly-just not the person that you would want to be around, be friends with. So it went back and forth bringing some of MY original friends into the “fight” and some of them belived what she had to say and others knew where i stood in the “fight” and stuck on my side. But the thing is with these kind of disputes is that in the end all of the girls in the grade are divided into 2 catigories-teams. My side and her side. But the fight went back and forth, through threats and fights and through the school Guidance counseler and the Vice Principal. Eventually, when 6th Grade rolled around we had forgiven each other but deffinatally not forgotten. We were friends and everything was going good, until my other friend Tina (again, not her real name) got into Kim and my Friendship. Basically, Tina used me and Kim as her punching bags, not litterally. But close, i remember one time, Tina had gone to Dunkin Donuts before school one day, and had gotten a vianilla iced whatever and she needed to fix her shoe or something and Kim was holding her books out infront of her like a table (but ofcorse not as big) and Tina put her drink on the books and Tina bent down to fix her shoe using Kim as balance and Kim didnt realize that tina was going to do that and the drink fell over on top of Tina. Then Tina and her friends got all up in Kims face and told her that she had to buy tina a new drink. And (if i was there at the time i would have stood up to those Bitches. . . excuse my french. . . But Kim got upset and long story shorter Kim and I got into an argument about what to do about the situation and I left the whole thing be because that is what Kim asked me to do, even though i shouldent have. But Tina is not going to be succesful in life if she acts that way. I dont know if i did the right thing in the Tina ssituation, but i do know that these problems wont matter in 5 years.

By: beckey

beckey — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 02:41:56 +0000

Same thing is happening with me i feel you pain

By: Rachel Simmons

Rachel Simmons — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 12:06:17 +0000

This once happened to me at a summer program. I got caught in the wrong group. It’s a terrible feeling because it looks like everyone else is happy in their group, and there are no doors open for you to leave yours. I understand your desire to change schools. Before you make that drastic move, can you think of one or two people in other groups that seem like good potential friends? Then, can you think of something you can do to spend more time with them — arrange a study date, strike up a conversation in the hallway, whatever? Sometimes, if you set small goals like that, instead of thinking about changing your friend group entirely, it can feel a bit more reasonable. You do deserve more, and you can have it – it’s up to you to decide which way to go. If you stay at your school, it will be harder, but you will grow and learn more — and not have to switch schools! These are life lessons, trust me – and they will serve you for a long time. Good luck!

By: Rachel Simmons

Rachel Simmons — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 11:46:03 +0000

I am really sorry this happened to you. It sounds like you are going through a very ugly friend breakup. It probably doesn’t help to hear from me that girls do things like this all the time, but maybe it will help to know that almost every girl I know who HAS dealt with this has moved on to bigger and better things. I encourage you to focus on getting closer to one or two potential new friends — I know it feels like no one is out there, but I promise they are! Just be patient. Think of it like getting dumped by someone you’re dating and having to put yourself out there and “date” new people. Give it time, and in the meantime, do things for yourself that make you feel good. Hang in there!

By: Rachel Simmons

Rachel Simmons — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 11:43:32 +0000

I strongly encourage you to separate from this girl – anyone who is physically attacking you is not a friend. Hitting her back is not the answer. Think about this: is it worse to see what happens when you find another group or to put up with what you’re going through now? It might be worth taking a risk, because what you’re going through sounds like real suffering.

By: Erika

Erika — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 03:14:23 +0000

I’m having some probs w/ the girls at school. the school is kinda small and once your “in” a clique or group you are stuck there. and i somehow got in the popular girls group. and i HATE it. they are just plain mean and i guess thats how they stay popular. and there is a limited selections of who to hang out w/. and im thinking about changing schools because i feel like i have no TRUE friends. and there is this one girl who is my so called BFF but actually she is just mean. she is very competitive and when ever i see here she just happens to have a lovely cut down waiting for me. some days i just dont want to go to school anymore.

By: Roo

Roo — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 17:49:34 +0000

I’m having the same problem. I’m in 8th grade and my suppose to be best friend starting hanging out with meaner girls and now she is bossy and mean. I didn’t do anything but she started a rumor about me something very personal that only she would know and when I confronted her about it she said she didn’t start it. I’m not stupid of course it was her – she was the only one who knew this! My mom tried to talk to her mom about this but her mom wouldn’t talk to my mom – she said the adults need to stay out of it. My mom agreed, but thought that what her daughter (my friend) did crossed the line. The other mom didn’t care. Now everyone at school is making fun of me and I have lost all my friends I had and its really horrible. Oh by the way, did I mention that this girl lives across the street from me and I have to see her not just in school but in my neighborhood!!!!

By: a.beav

a.beav — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 19:09:48 +0000

Well, I would go tell a trusted adult and talk to them about it. I had the same thing happen to me. I believe it will work it’s self out. Good Luck. I hope this advice helps.

By: Maranda Brown

Maranda Brown — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 04:44:30 +0000

That happened to me. I’m so sorry that you have to go through that. So here’s my story:
One of my closest friends that I’ve been friends with for 2 years now started to be rude to everyone, and I had enough of it. It was hard at first but then everything started to cool down. About 2 months later the girl that I didn’t want to be friends with anymore apologized and I’ve been hanging out with her alot lately. She’s really changed and I’m glad for her. I reall hope things work out with you and you ex-bestfriend.